In the week leading up to my 21st Birthday I asked 100 Strangers for advice they wish they could have given their 21 year old self. These people included Uni careers day famous guest; Jason Manford, Lecturers, a Police officer, a Dentist, a shopkeeper and many successful ladies from the Women at work network. Here are some of my favorite responses. * I am not including any names but if anyone wants their response deleted let me know.
It’s a bit of a cliche but believe your own worth
Comparison is the thief of joy
Stop thinking you matter, your not as important as you think
Don’t compromise with the people you love, Don’t compromise on your career, Do believe your worth and take risks for things you believe in. If I was actually talking to 21 year old me I’d say – go travelling and ditch the boy. He’s absolutely not worth it.
Start a pension! and an ISA
Not a lot as I wouldn’t have listened 😂 to anyone my age now … plus I’m glad of every decision I made. It worked out in the end.
Don’t think you made mistakes, own them, then they aren’t mistakes anymore
Always stand up for what you believe in, even if it seems impossible, it always works out
You are enough.
Don’t be afraid to change your mind.
Every day is an opportunity to learn something new
Be strong and proud (combat Imposter Syndrome!)
Don’t give up on your dreams for a relationship. If the relationship is meant to be then it will last while you follow your dreams/ambitions
Move away from home! Best thing I ever did.
When things don’t go to plan, don’t feel like you have failed, feel inspired to work harder to reach those goals
As you move upwards, extend the ladder down to those behind you. Good karma. And remember that everyone is winging it….
Don’t go searching for happiness because it is within yourself
Remember that we judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions
Start wearing face cream
Live your life for you and nobody else. Don’t be afraid to be different. I spent too much of my youth trying to be what my parents wanted me to be
Always retain financial independence in relationships. I first heard this in an Eve Pollard interview but it has always stuck with me: always have a f*ck off fund so you never make any relationship decisions based on money
Chase your dream, it may seem out of reach but if you stretch yourself you may surprise yourself and achieve it. Always aim high!
Its a long game.. trust me.
DON’T CARE ABOUT VALIDATION FROM OTHER PEOPLE ESPECIALLY FROM ‘LIKES’
Be proactive in developing your career
Make memories you will want to look back on.
1. Be confident, kind, patient and humble – you will get ‘there’
2. Start planning to buy your own property, however ‘far away’ that possibility may seem. Financial independence will ease your mind, and your home(s) serve a pension
3. Start wearing SPF under your makeup every day now! You will be very glad you did
4. Pursue what makes you truly happy. It is your unique journey – follow it with faith, gratitude and joy
5. Help those ‘behind you’, sharing your skills and knowledge to empower others so that they too may do the same. This will make you happy
Decide what is important to you as you might not get to do everything.
Nobody is perfect
Life is short, make the most of it.
So there it is! Why did I ask 100 strangers what advice they would give their younger selves you may ask? They might not even be successful! – It does not matter. Everyone in this world can offer us wisdom for self improvement. Posing the question what would you tell your 21 year old self can help me self improve from the angle of someone successful or unsuccessful and unhappy with their life- Someone unhappy with their life can still offer advice as they will recognize their ‘mistakes’ (Or what they perceive to be their mistakes, After all some people believe nothing is a mistake, just a learning point, a lesson, or even something the universe has planned to set us on our right path)